Coaching practices for The Gifts of Imperfection After a Loss
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When I mess up I tear into myself in a way I’d never speak to anyone I love
- It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
- Since I nearly lost it all, the small ordinary things I used to walk right past
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- What I went through cracked open everything I used to take for granted about how life works and what it’s for
Practices that may help
- The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection argues that a sense of worthiness comes not from being perfect but from embracing imperfection — through authenticity, self-compassion, and what she calls wholehearted living. The book’s guideposts come from grounded-theory analysis of qualitative interviews, so they are well-developed patterns from lived experience rather than experimentally proven steps. - Practice self-compassion
Respond to your own imperfection with the kindness you’d offer a friend, not harsh judgment.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Domain 5 — Renewed appreciation of life
Adversity can sharpen attention to small goods and reorder what you treat as important.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Domain 4 — Spiritual or existential change
Confronting limits and mortality can deepen or reshape your sense of meaning and the sacred.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Domain 2 — New possibilities
When an old path is closed off, genuinely new directions and priorities can open.
Post-Traumatic Growth, Made Practical - Cultivate authenticity
Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical - Integrating loss through the lens of anicca
When grieving a loss, ground the experience in the insight that what ended was always impermanent — and that grief itself is impermanent.
Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
Related concerns
- The Gifts Of Imperfection During A Big Change
Brené Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection argues that a sense of worthiness comes not from being perfect but from embracing imperfection — through authenticity, self-compassion, and what she calls wholehearted living. The book’s guideposts come from grounded-theory analysis of qualitative interviews, so they are well-developed patterns from lived experience rather than experimentally proven steps.
- The War Of Art After A Loss
Steven Pressfield’s "Resistance" is his name for the internal force that opposes any meaningful creative or entrepreneurial act. His core practices — turning pro, showing up daily, and treating creative work as a profession rather than an inspiration-dependent activity — are grounded in practitioner wisdom from a working novelist. They align with self-regulation and deliberate practice research but are not derived from formal studies.
- Accepting Loss Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Appreciation Of Life After Loss
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
- Buddhist Approach To Loss
When grieving a loss, ground the experience in the insight that what ended was always impermanent — and that grief itself is impermanent.
Integrating loss through the lens of anicca
- Designing Your Life After A Loss
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Reframing loss as transformation
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