Coaching practices for The Investment Model of Commitment Why People Stay and Why They Leave After a Loss

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  • We’ve built so much together
  • I keep catching myself daydreaming about some other life
  • We default to whatever each of us wants in the moment, and I rarely choose their preference over mine on purpose
  • When I ask myself if I’m happy in this relationship, all I can summon are the irritations and the fights
  • We’ve drifted into roommates running on autopilot

Practices that may help

  1. The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
    Caryl Rusbult’s Investment Model proposes that commitment is driven by three factors: satisfaction (how good the relationship feels), quality of alternatives (how appealing life outside the relationship seems), and investment size (what you’ve put into it that would be lost on leaving). All three are modifiable — and understanding which is weakest gives a precise target for strengthening commitment. The model has extensive empirical support across diverse relationship types and cultures.
  2. Making your investments visible to both partners
    Name and acknowledge the shared investments in the relationship — children, history, shared projects — to both parties.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  3. Understanding and managing the lure of alternatives
    Recognize when comparison to alternatives is inflating their apparent quality — and how to recalibrate.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  4. Willingness to sacrifice: building relationship-oriented decision-making
    Practice making at least one weekly decision that prioritizes the relationship over personal short-term convenience.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  5. Satisfaction audit: tracking what is actually good
    Regularly inventory what genuinely works in the relationship — not as gratitude practice, but as an honest baseline.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  6. Pro-relationship maintenance behaviors
    Actively do things that maintain and strengthen the relationship, rather than expecting it to run itself.
    The Investment Model of Commitment: Why People Stay (and Why They Leave)
  7. Calculate the ongoing cost of delay
    Every day you continue a bad course is a day you could have started a better one.
    The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Escaping Bad Investments
  8. Use an anti-charity donation as your stake
    Agree to donate to an organization you oppose if you fail — loss framing at its most visceral.
    Commitment Contracts, Made Practical
  9. Actively watch for escalation of commitment
    Each new investment in a losing course makes the next exit harder — catch escalation early.
    The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Escaping Bad Investments
  10. Schedule commitment renewal to prevent drift
    Recommit explicitly every few weeks — the motivation that drove the original contract fades faster than the contract itself.
    Commitment Contracts, Made Practical

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