Coaching practices for The Satir Model When Starting Out
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I trust my favorite framework so completely that I apply it everywhere without checking, and lately it’s been quietly steering me wrong
- I’m starting to sense my defensive habits in conversation all trace back to a quiet belief that the real me wouldn’t be accepted
- I read all these brilliant thinking tools and nod along, and then the moment I’m actually facing a hard problem not one of them comes to mind
- Everything I know how to think with comes from my own field, so every problem ends up looking like the kind of problem I already know how to solve
- Every time a conversation gets tense I snap into the same reaction without choosing it
Practices that may help
- The Satir Model
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence. - Constantly distinguish the map from the territory
A model is a simplification — know precisely where yours breaks down.
Mental Models: Charlie Munger’s Latticework Approach - Work on the self-worth beneath the stances
The defensive stances protect against low self-worth — building the worth reduces the need for protection.
The Satir Model - Maintain a personal model catalog with examples
Keep a written inventory of your models, each illustrated with a real example from your own experience.
Mental Models: Charlie Munger’s Latticework Approach - Collect models deliberately from fields outside your specialty
Choose one model per quarter from a discipline you do not work in and learn it well enough to explain it.
Mental Models: Charlie Munger’s Latticework Approach - Recognize your own defensive stance under stress
Identify which stance you default to when threatened — placating, blaming, computing, or distracting.
The Satir Model - Prototype — make it cheap and real
Build the roughest possible version that lets you learn something specific.
Design Thinking, Step by Step - Follow explicit rules and procedures without improvisation at the novice stage
When new to a domain, follow the given rules precisely — understanding comes after compliance, not before.
The Dreyfus Model: Five Stages from Novice to Expert - Apply several models to the same problem at once
When models from different fields point to the same answer, confidence rises; when they conflict, you learn something important.
Mental Models: Charlie Munger’s Latticework Approach - Practice congruent communication
Say what you feel, about what you observe, while caring for both yourself and the other person.
The Satir Model
Related concerns
- The Satir Model At Work
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
- The Satir Model On A Budget
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
- The Satir Model As A Parent
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
- The Satir Model For My Teenager
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
- The Satir Model In A New Job
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
- The Satir Model With Friends
Virginia Satir’s model identifies four defensive communication stances people adopt under stress — Placating, Blaming, Computing, and Distracting — each driven by low self-worth. The fifth stance, Congruent communication, aligns what you feel, what you say, and your regard for yourself and the other person simultaneously. Satir used the model clinically with families and couples; the goal is not to eliminate the stances but to recognize them and choose congruence.
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