Coaching practices for The Six Pillars of Self Esteem at Work

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  • My days are just whatever circumstances throw at me
  • I keep waiting for someone else to fix my situation or change so things get better
  • I keep acting against what I say I value and breaking the small promises I make to myself, and each time I lose a little face with the one person I can never get away from
  • I keep swallowing what I actually want and going along to keep the peace, and every time I stay silent against my own wishes it quietly tells me my needs don’t matter
  • There are parts of me

Practices that may help

  1. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
    Nathaniel Branden defines self-esteem as the experience of being competent to meet life’s challenges and worthy of happiness, and argues it is built through six daily practices: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully, and personal integrity. Branden’s framework is clinically derived practitioner theory rather than trial-tested protocol, though each pillar overlaps with constructs that have their own research.
  2. The practice of living purposefully
    Set goals, pursue them deliberately, and monitor whether your actions match your intentions.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  3. The practice of self-responsibility
    Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  4. The practice of personal integrity
    Keep your behavior aligned with your stated values — match your walk to your talk.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  5. The practice of self-assertiveness
    Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  6. The practice of self-acceptance
    Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  7. The practice of living consciously
    Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  8. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
    Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
    Power Posing Revisited
  9. Build self-knowledge from behavioral evidence
    Ground your self-beliefs in specific past behaviors, not feelings or others’ opinions.
    Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical
  10. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
    Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical

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