Coaching practices for The Six Pillars of Self Esteem During a Big Change

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • There are parts of me
  • I keep waiting for someone else to fix my situation or change so things get better
  • My days are just whatever circumstances throw at me
  • I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
  • Every time I try to tell myself I’m not the worthless, incompetent person I think I am, the whole thing snaps right back

Practices that may help

  1. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
    Nathaniel Branden defines self-esteem as the experience of being competent to meet life’s challenges and worthy of happiness, and argues it is built through six daily practices: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully, and personal integrity. Branden’s framework is clinically derived practitioner theory rather than trial-tested protocol, though each pillar overlaps with constructs that have their own research.
  2. The practice of self-acceptance
    Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  3. The practice of self-responsibility
    Own that you are the author of your choices, actions, and the fulfillment of your wants.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  4. The practice of living purposefully
    Set goals, pursue them deliberately, and monitor whether your actions match your intentions.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  5. Write about a value that matters to you
    Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
  6. Update the self-concept incrementally
    Revise one specific self-belief at a time — not the whole identity at once.
    Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
  7. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
    Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
    Power Posing Revisited
  8. The practice of self-assertiveness
    Honor your wants, needs, and values by expressing them in the world — appropriately and openly.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  9. The practice of living consciously
    Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
    The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
  10. Broaden your self-concept beyond one domain
    Actively maintain a multi-domain identity so no single failure can threaten your whole self-worth.
    Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical

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