Coaching practices for Values and Behavior Gap

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I keep telling myself I’m basically living in line with what I care about, but if I’m brutally honest about my actual behavior the last couple of weeks, I suspect I’m way further from the center than I let myself admit
• There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down
• I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
• I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
• I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words

Practices that may help

1. Rate your current position in each domain
   Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
2. Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
   Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
   Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical
3. The values–behavior gap check
   Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
   Values Card Sort
4. Check action against stated values — the alignment review
   Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
5. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
   Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
6. Stick to Values: act consistently with what actually matters to you
   Before compromising a position, check whether the compromise conflicts with a core value — and hold if it does.
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
7. Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
   Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
   Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
8. Assess which life conditions are activating which levels
   Map how your current environment is pulling different value systems forward or backward.
   Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical
9. Make core values operational, not decorative
   Use core values in hiring, recognition, and decision-making — not just on the website.
   The Rockefeller Habits: Scaling Up with Rhythm and Focus
10. Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
    When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
    Values Bullseye, Made Practical

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