Coaching practices for Values Behavior Gap
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I keep telling myself I’m basically living in line with what I care about, but if I’m brutally honest about my actual behavior the last couple of weeks, I suspect I’m way further from the center than I let myself admit
- There’s a low hum of dissatisfaction in my life I can’t pin down
- I’ve named my top values, but looking back at the actual decisions I made this week, I’m not sure my behavior honored a single one of them
- I say I value certain things, but when I look honestly at how I actually spent my week, my real priorities were something else entirely
- I reach for the same go-to fix for every change
Practices that may help
- Rate your current position in each domain
Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
Values Bullseye, Made Practical - Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
Values-Based Action (ACT), Made Practical - The values–behavior gap check
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
Values Card Sort - Check action against stated values — the alignment review
Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
The Pythagorean Evening Review - Match your intervention type to the COM-B gap
Use the Behavior Change Wheel to select the intervention approach that fits the diagnosed gap — not your default.
The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel - Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t) - Use self-compassion to buffer the emotional cost of discrepancies
Acknowledge the gap and the discomfort it causes without turning it into self-attack — the gap can motivate without punishing.
Self-Discrepancy Theory, Made Practical - Use social opportunity — others who make the behavior normal
Position yourself in social contexts where your target behavior is modeled, expected, or easy to perform with others.
The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel - Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Assess which life conditions are activating which levels
Map how your current environment is pulling different value systems forward or backward.
Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Values And Behavior Gap
Mark on each domain’s bullseye how closely your recent behavior has matched the value — honestly.
Rate your current position in each domain
- How Aligned Am I With My Values
Audit the last week: which of your top values did your actual decisions honor?
The values–behavior gap check
- Stated Vs Actual Values
Infer your actual values from your past behaviour, not from what you wish you valued.
Values clarification through lived evidence
- Values Action Gap
Rate both how important each value is and how consistently you have been living it — the gap is where to focus.
Valued living audit: how much are you actually living your values?
- Values Alignment Check
Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
- Values Alignment Review
Once a week, compare your stated values to your actual choices and name the gap honestly.
Check action against stated values — the alignment review
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