Coaching practices for Values Before Goals

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• There’s a goal I keep flogging myself to pursue and it just won’t stick
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
• I keep hearing that goals should "motivate without paralyzing" and I genuinely don’t know which kind to use when
• I set a hard number on something I’ve genuinely never done before, and now I’m anxious and frozen
• No matter how much I improve, my goals are always pegged to beating other people

Practices that may help

1. Using your ranked values as a coaching north star
   Return to your ranked values list every time a goal, project, or decision feels off-track.
   Values Card Sort
2. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
3. Build a three-level goal hierarchy
   Stack outcome goals (direction), performance goals (benchmarks), and process goals (moment-to-moment focus) in a single structure.
   Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
4. Use learning goals instead of performance goals on novel tasks
   When the skill is new, a "figure out how to do X" goal outperforms "achieve X by date."
   Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire
5. Orient toward mastery rather than performance comparison
   Set goals against your own past standard rather than against others.
   Approach vs Avoidance Goals
6. Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
   Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
7. Frame goals as approach-oriented rather than avoidance-oriented
   "Become healthy" outperforms "stop being sedentary" — frame goals toward what you want, not away from what you fear.
   Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other)
8. Calibrate stretch with a target score
   Aim where hitting ~70% is a strong result, so comfort means you aimed too low.
   OKRs for People, Not Just Companies
9. Understand the three-goal hierarchy: outcome, performance, process
   Use all three goal types — but know which one to focus on during execution.
   Process Goals, Made Practical
10. Separate values from goals
    Distinguish directions you live (values) from destinations you reach (goals).
    Values Clarification, Made Practical

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