Coaching practices for Voice in Negotiation
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The second they push back I either cave completely or harden into all-or-nothing, because I walked in without ever deciding what I could actually live with
- The other person is getting louder and faster and I can feel myself about to match their heat and make it worse
- When I negotiate I jump straight to my offer and try to claim my slice, and I suspect I’m leaving value on the table
- It’s turned into a pure contest of who’ll budge first, and I hate that whoever caves just loses face
- The whole thing has collapsed down to one number and we’re just staring each other down over price, so whatever I gain they lose
Practices that may help
- Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take
Decide in advance what you are willing to accept short of your full ask, and be ready to offer something in exchange.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - The calm “late-night FM DJ” voice
Use a slow, warm, downward-inflecting voice to steady the other person’s nervous system.
Never Split the Difference, In Practice - Expand the pie before you divide it
In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
Give and Take: The Giver Advantage - Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options
Agree on an independent standard — market rate, precedent, expert opinion — before applying it to the specific deal.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Add issues to expand the pie
Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Separate the people from the problem
Address relationship concerns and substantive issues in different registers — treating people well and the problem hard.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Acknowledge emotions explicitly in negotiation
Name what you see the other side feeling — it reduces defensive heat and keeps the substantive conversation workable.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Create value first, then claim your share
Expand the pie before you fight over slices — but don’t forget to take your slice.
Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie - Use silence after making an offer
After you name a number, stop talking — silence lets the offer land and creates pressure without argument.
The Flinch and Reactive Devaluation, Made Practical - Insist on objective criteria
Anchor the deal to independent standards — market rates, precedent, expert opinion — not willpower.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
Related concerns
- Principled Negotiation As A Caregiver
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Principled Negotiation Under Stress
Walk through every bid and response scenario in advance so you execute under pressure with prepared clarity.
Rehearse the full Ackerman sequence before high-stakes negotiations
- Principled Negotiation When Burned Out
Name what you see the other side feeling — it reduces defensive heat and keeps the substantive conversation workable.
Acknowledge emotions explicitly in negotiation
- Principled Negotiation When Overwhelmed
Name what you see the other side feeling — it reduces defensive heat and keeps the substantive conversation workable.
- Principled Negotiation When Starting Out
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball.
- Calm Voice Negotiation
Use a slow, warm, downward-inflecting voice to steady the other person’s nervous system.
The calm “late-night FM DJ” voice
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