Coaching practices for What Can Help with Low Self Esteem

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• I’ve got a big evaluation looming and I can already feel myself bracing to defend my whole worth on it
• So much of my energy goes into managing how good I look
• The person I’m trying to help has basically given up on themselves
• I keep telling myself "I’m great at this, I’ve got this" right before the thing I’m scared of, and it somehow makes me feel worse
• I catch myself in the mirror and the scale and feel awful no matter the number, and I’m tired of my self-worth riding on how I look

Practices that may help

1. Write about a value that matters to you
   Before a stressful or threatening situation, spend five minutes writing about a value that is genuinely important to you.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
2. Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
   Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
   Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
3. Affirm genuine strengths and effort
   Notice and name real strengths the person brings — not empty praise.
   Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical
4. Use affirmation of values, not affirmation of ability
   Affirm that you are a good person with important values — not that you are good at the specific thing you are anxious about.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
5. Shifting body image from appearance to function
   Valuing what your body can do, not just how it looks, improves how you feel about it.
   Strength Training for Confidence
6. Build mastery
   Do one thing every day that is challenging and leaves you feeling capable.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
7. Use value-based self-affirmation before threatening evaluations
   Before a threatening evaluation, write for 10 minutes about a value that matters to you — unrelated to the domain being evaluated.
   Power Posing Revisited
8. Affirm a different value after a failure
   When you fail in one area, actively invest in a domain where you know you contribute.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
9. The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
   Nathaniel Branden defines self-esteem as the experience of being competent to meet life’s challenges and worthy of happiness, and argues it is built through six daily practices: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, self-assertiveness, living purposefully, and personal integrity. Branden’s framework is clinically derived practitioner theory rather than trial-tested protocol, though each pillar overlaps with constructs that have their own research.
10. Shame-attacking exercises
    Do something mildly embarrassing on purpose to prove you can survive and function through discomfort.
    Unconditional Self-Acceptance

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