Coaching practices for What Professional Helps Teach Parents How to Parent

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• We keep having the exact same blow-up over the exact same thing, and I’m starting to wonder if my kid genuinely doesn’t know how to handle that moment any other way
• I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
• My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
• Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat

Practices that may help

1. Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule
   Children misbehave partly because they don’t know how to do the right thing — teach the skill when everyone is calm.
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
2. Manage your own emotional state before responding
   A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
3. Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
   Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
4. Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
   Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
5. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
6. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
7. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
8. Co-regulate by naming your own zone first
   A parent who models zone awareness is a more effective co-regulator than one who only monitors the child.
   Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)
9. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
10. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
    Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)

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