Coaching practices for How Can I Be a Parent with Severe Disabilities
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I lose my temper with my kid and then feel sick about it for hours
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- There are a few situations that go badly every single time
- My kid is mid-meltdown and I’m kneeling there explaining why they can’t have it, getting more reasonable while they get more wild, and none of my logic is landing
- My kid only seems to come at me when they want something or when they’re acting out, and I realize the only time I really pay full attention is when I’m correcting them
Practices that may help
- Manage your own emotional state before responding
A regulated parent is the single most powerful behavior management tool available.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Plan behavior management strategies in advance
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Spend quality one-on-one time with your child
Fifteen minutes of child-led, uninterrupted attention per day builds the relationship that discipline depends on.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world. - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
Related concerns
- Building Connection Parenting
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Talk with your child about their day and interests
- Connect And Redirect Parenting
A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
- Evidence Based Parenting
Triple P — Positive Parenting Program — is a multilevel evidence-based parenting support system developed by Matthew Sanders at the University of Queensland. It teaches positive relationship skills, proactive management strategies, and calm responses to misbehavior. Multiple meta-analyses and RCTs support its effectiveness for reducing child behavior problems and parent stress, making it one of the most rigorously evaluated parenting programs in the world.
- Limited Reparenting
Treat the vulnerable child mode in yourself with the care and limits that childhood should have provided.
Self-applied limited reparenting
- Parenting Research Outcomes
Diana Baumrind’s authoritative parenting style combines high warmth with high structure — responsiveness to the child’s needs alongside consistent, explained expectations. It is the most extensively researched parenting style and is consistently associated with better child outcomes across academic achievement, social competence, and emotional adjustment, compared to authoritarian (high control, low warmth) or permissive (low control, high warmth) styles. Most of the evidence is observational; causal direction and cultural generalizability require caveats.
- Plan B Parenting
Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
Plan behavior management strategies in advance
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