Coaching practices for What to Do About a Colleague Playing Pranks on a Manager

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  • I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder
  • My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
  • Someone got mocked or shut down in our last meeting and I let it slide to avoid the awkwardness
  • I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
  • Someone just came to me with a mistake and I felt my face tighten before I said a word

Practices that may help

  1. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
    Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  2. Send proactive, brief status updates
    Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  3. Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
    Managing up means proactively understanding your manager’s priorities, communication style, and constraints — then adapting how you work and communicate to make the partnership effective. Done well it is collaborative rather than manipulative: it reduces friction, builds trust, and creates space for greater autonomy. The evidence base is primarily organizational behavior research on leader-member exchange and practitioner consensus.
  4. Respond immediately and visibly to safety violations
    When safety is violated — a person is mocked, shut down, or punished for dissent — address it in the moment.
    The Four Stages of Psychological Safety
  5. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  6. Respond non-punitively to mistakes
    When someone brings you a problem or mistake, make your first move curiosity, not blame.
    Psychological Safety in Teams
  7. Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
    When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
    Delegation Levels, Made Practical
  8. Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
    Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
    Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
  9. Repair a damaged leader-follower relationship deliberately
    Take active steps to reset a deteriorated relationship, rather than allowing avoidance to compound the damage.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  10. Disagree with your manager constructively
    State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss

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