Coaching practices for Everyone Brings Their Problems to Me to Solve I Jump in and Fix Each One and Now I'm the Bottleneck for Everything While My People Never Grow I Can Feel I'm Carrying Work That Should Be Theirs but Handing it Back Feels Like Abandoning Them

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• Everyone brings their problems to me to solve, I jump in and fix each one, and now I’m the bottleneck for everything while my people never grow
• My people route every little decision up to me, even ones squarely in their own authority
• I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
• I hand work off and somehow it keeps boomeranging back onto my plate
• Someone hits a snag, brings it to me, I say "leave it with me," and somehow the task I delegated is back on my desk

Practices that may help

1. Give the work back without abandoning people
   Resist taking ownership of problems that belong to the people facing the adaptive challenge.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
2. Break the advice-dependency loop
   When people come to you for every decision, it signals advice-giving is making them less capable, not more.
   The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm
3. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
   Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
4. Resist reverse delegation (the "monkey back" problem)
   When a report brings you their monkey, don’t take it — send it back with the next step owned.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
5. Resist upward (reverse) delegation
   Don’t let the task you delegated jump back onto your desk the first time it gets hard.
   Effective Delegation, Made Practical
6. Push recommendations up, not problems
   Require reports to bring a recommendation alongside any problem — it’s a delegation practice, not just a time-saver.
   Delegation Levels, Made Practical
7. Map who actually owns the problem
   Identify whose problem it truly is before investing in a solution — the framing often changes when you name the real owner.
   Problem Reframing: Solving the Right Problem First
8. Resist the urge to fix
   When someone shares pain, default to presence, not problem-solving.
   Holding Space
9. Chunk your helping into dedicated time
   Concentrate giving into scheduled blocks rather than letting it interrupt your focused work.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
10. Coach the person, not just the problem
    The most important thing a manager can work on is the person’s capacity to handle future problems, not just today’s.
    The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm

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