Coaching practices for I Want Someone to Come at This Plan with the Explicit Job of Tearing it Apart No Balancing the Good with the Bad No Being Nice Just Find Every Way it Breaks Because Polite Feedback Isn't Catching Anything

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• I want someone to come at this plan with the explicit job of tearing it apart
• I keep wrapping my criticism in compliments the way I was taught to, and it just isn’t working
• We’ve all fallen in love with this plan and the room’s gone warm and agreeable, and now it feels almost rude to be the one raising what could go wrong
• I tell someone what went wrong but never say what I actually want instead, so they walk away knowing they messed up with no idea what "right" looks like
• No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above

Practices that may help

1. Red-team your plan with a formal adversarial review
   Assign someone the explicit role of finding every way your plan could be wrong or fail.
   Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See
2. Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it
   The sandwich fails because it sends three conflicting signals at once.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
3. Black hat: identify risks and why something could fail
   Apply the most rigorous critical scrutiny to the idea — the black hat is the voice of caution and evidence-based pessimism.
   Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical
4. Add a forward-looking request to SBI
   Pair the impact statement with a specific, doable request for next time.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
5. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
6. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
   Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Challenge directly
   Say the hard thing clearly, soon, and to the person’s face.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
8. Ask for feedback before you give it
   Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
9. Adapt how you deliver feedback to the person’s style
   Deliver the same honest feedback in the form the other person can actually hear it.
   The Platinum Rule
10. Invite a response after delivering SBI
    Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical

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