Coaching practices for So Much of Me is a Performance the Image I Keep Up the Approval I Chase That I've Started to Wonder Who's Even Left Underneath it and Whether the Self I Bring to God is the Real One or Just the Act

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• So much of me is a performance
• I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
• Keeping up the version of me everyone expects
• Whenever I try to act like the person I want to be
• I spend all day arranging my face into the cheerful, capable version everyone expects while I feel nothing like it inside, and holding that mask up hour after hour is leaving me hollowed out and weirdly unsure of what I even feel underneath it anymore.

Practices that may help

1. Attending to the true self beneath the false self
   Recognize the constructed social persona (false self) and rest in the deeper self beneath it.
   Contemplative Prayer: The Inner Journey
2. Cultivate authenticity
   Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
3. Examining the gap between persona and self
   Map who you perform for others versus who you experience yourself as in private — the gap is shadow territory.
   Shadow Work
4. Build self-familiarity with new identities through low-stakes repetition
   Repeatedly acting in a new way — even in small doses — makes the new behavior feel like you.
   The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical
5. Stop surface acting
   Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
6. Define yourself by actions, not intentions
   You are not your intentions or your self-image — you are the accumulation of what you actually do.
   Existentialism and Radical Choice
7. Play your role well
   You’re an actor in a play whose part is assigned; your only job is to play it well.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
8. The practice of self-acceptance
   Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
9. Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
   Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
   Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
10. Shift identity from self-concept to awareness itself
    Experiment with "I am the aware space" rather than "I am my thoughts and feelings."
    Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical

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