Coaching practices for We're Stuck Head to Head Over a Single Number Both Digging in on What We're Demanding and I Keep Sensing That If I Understood What's Actually Driving Their Number What They Really Need Underneath it There'd Be a Way Through That Neither of Us Can See While We're Just Trading Positions

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• We’re stuck head-to-head over a single number, both digging in on what we’re demanding, and I keep sensing that if I understood what’s actually driving their number
• We’re both dug into our numbers and it feels totally deadlocked, but I have a hunch we’re not actually that far apart underneath
• We’re both clamped onto our numbers and just sliding them toward the middle, and it feels like a tug-of-war with no give
• We’re completely deadlocked on the one number
• They keep restating the same demand and we’re stuck, and I have a strong feeling what they’re asking for isn’t actually the real problem

Practices that may help

1. Probe for interests, not positions
   Ask why the other side wants what they say they want before responding to what they say.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
2. Focus on interests, not positions
   Ask why a position is taken — the underlying interest is almost always more negotiable than the stated demand.
   Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
3. Focus on interests, not positions
   Dig beneath what each side demands to why they want it — the interest, not the stance.
   Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
4. Expand the ZOPA by adding issues to the negotiation
   When you’re stuck on a single issue, adding more issues often creates room for trades that satisfy both sides.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
5. Uncover the real problem with "What’s the biggest challenge here?"
   The stated position is rarely the real problem — ask for the challenge behind it.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
6. Distinguish substantive, procedural, and psychological interests
   The interest behind a position is often not about the money or the terms — it may be about face, fairness, or control.
   Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
7. Add issues to expand the pie
   Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
8. Anchor the conversation on criteria first
   Set the standard the number should follow before any figure is named.
   Anchoring Bias in Negotiation and Judgment
9. Write contingent contracts when forecasts disagree
   If you and the other side have different predictions, let the outcome decide who was right.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
10. Ask "why" before proposing any solution
    Understand the interest driving a position before generating any solution — solutions invented before interests are understood usually solve the wrong problem.
    Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation

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