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• I made a call that turned out badly and now I feel like an idiot for it
• A choice I made blew up and I’m tearing into myself
• I keep replaying it — I should have known better, I should have seen it coming — as if the right answer was obvious at the time and I’m just the idiot who missed it.
• I’m about to make a real call and I want to pin down what I actually think will happen right now, before I find out
• I beat myself up over a call that went badly even though it was the right move with what I knew, and I let myself off the hook for reckless ones that happened to work out

Practices that may help

1. Judge decisions by the process, not the result
   A good decision that produces a bad outcome is still a good decision.
   Expected Value Thinking: Deciding Under Uncertainty
2. Evaluate decisions by process, not outcome
   Judge a decision by the quality of the reasoning at the time, not by what happened.
   Hindsight Bias: Why Everything Seems Obvious in Retrospect
3. Notice and drop "should" language
   Replace "I should have known better" with "I did what made sense given what I knew."
   Common Humanity, Made Practical
4. Log probability estimates before the outcome
   Write down your confidence level and reasoning before you know how things turn out.
   Hindsight Bias: Why Everything Seems Obvious in Retrospect
5. Separate the quality of the decision from the outcome
   A good decision can produce a bad outcome, and a bad decision can produce a good outcome — do not confuse them.
   Thinking in Bets
6. Score decision quality separately from outcome quality
   Judge the process you used — not whether it worked — when you review a past decision.
   Decision Journaling: Learning to Decide Better Over Time
7. Tell apart emotions that feel similar
   Separate the cousins: anxiety vs excitement, anger vs hurt, sadness vs disappointment.
   Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
8. Name your emotional state before making an important decision
   Identify and name the emotion you are in before committing to a significant choice.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
9. Actively watch for escalation of commitment
   Each new investment in a losing course makes the next exit harder — catch escalation early.
   The Sunk Cost Fallacy: Escaping Bad Investments
10. Check reversibility before you fear the downside
    Most decisions are reversible; reserve maximum caution for the few that aren’t.
    The Regret-Minimization Framework

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