Coaching practices for The Grief Ambushes Me at the Worst Times in a Meeting Mid Conversation Pushing a Cart Down the Cereal Aisle and it Bleeds Into the Whole Day Until I Can't Function So I Either Drown in it or Clamp Down Completely with No in Between

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• The grief ambushes me at the worst times
• I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
• The missing them comes in waves that physically knock the wind out of me, and when one crests I just need to get through the next few minutes without drowning
• I’ve been keeping it together by staying busy and not letting myself fall apart, but the grief I keep shoving down isn’t shrinking
• I keep circling the same painful thing for hours and every loop makes it worse

Practices that may help

1. Create a deliberate grief window
   Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
2. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
3. Havening to soften acute grief activation
   Use gentle touch and brief distraction to lower the physiological intensity of grief surges.
   Self-Havening: Calming the Nervous System Through Touch
4. Task 2: Work through the pain of grief
   Allow and process the emotional and physical pain of loss rather than bypassing it.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
5. ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis
   Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
6. Oscillate between grief and sense-making
   Allow periods of pure grief alongside periods of meaning construction — both are necessary.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
7. Name the emotions the situation will likely produce
   Predict which feelings will show up and at what intensity — so they are not surprises when they arrive.
   Cope Ahead: DBT’s Method for Preparing for Difficult Situations
8. Regulate the oscillation consciously
   If you are spending too long in one orientation, deliberately shift to the other.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
9. Batch all meetings onto meeting days
   Route all collaboration, calls, and meetings into dedicated days so they don’t fragment the rest.
   Theme Days, Made Practical
10. Construct a coherent narrative of the loss
    Tell the full story of the loss — who the person was, what happened, and what life is now.
    Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical

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