Coaching practices for I'm Walking Into This Assuming It's a Fixed Pie Where Their Win is My Loss and I've Only Ever Thought Through My Own Side I've Never Laid Out What Each of Us Cares About Most So I Can't Even See Where a Trade Between Us Might Exist

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’m walking into this assuming it’s a fixed pie where their win is my loss, and I’ve only ever thought through my own side
• I’m walking into this thing braced for a fight, certain that whatever they get is coming straight out of my pocket
• I’m walking into this dead certain it’s one fixed pie
• We’re treating this like there’s one pie to fight over and someone has to lose
• The whole thing has collapsed down to one number and we’re just staring each other down over price, so whatever I gain they lose

Practices that may help

1. Map interests for both sides before generating solutions
   Write down both parties’ known and inferred interests before proposing anything — the map reveals trades that no single position could.
   Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
2. Reject the fixed-pie assumption
   Stop assuming your gain must be their loss — most negotiations have hidden joint gains.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
3. Negotiate from abundance, not scarcity
   Question the assumption that what one side gains the other must lose.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
4. Invent options for mutual gain
   Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
   Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
5. Add issues to expand the pie
   Bring more variables in — timing, scope, future work — so there’s more to trade.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
6. Map the ZOPA before negotiating
   Know your walk-away point and estimate theirs before the first offer is made.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
7. Write contingent contracts when forecasts disagree
   If you and the other side have different predictions, let the outcome decide who was right.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
8. Trade across differing priorities
   Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
9. Adopt the learning stance
   Trade "I know what happened" for "I want to understand what happened for you".
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
10. Probe for interests, not positions
    Ask why the other side wants what they say they want before responding to what they say.
    Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference

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