Coaching practices for The Inspiring Vision of Who I Want to Be Gets Me Fired Up for a Day or Two and Then Quietly Fades and What Actually Scares Me Straight When I Let Myself Look at it is the Version of Me That Just Keeps Drifting and Wakes Up in Five Years Having Changed Nothing
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The inspiring vision of who I want to be gets me fired up for a day or two and then quietly fades
- I’m still grinding toward a version of "successful me" I dreamed up years ago, and it’s stopped lighting me up
- I’ve got this clear, vivid picture of the person I want to become, and I love daydreaming about them
- The future I want for myself feels so out of reach that part of me has filed it under "people like me don’t get there"
- I keep making the choice that the version of me a year from now would groan at
Practices that may help
- Pair the hoped-for self with a feared counterpart
Identify the feared version of your future self in the same domain — the pairing produces more sustained motivation than hope alone.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Update and revise possible selves over time
Revisit and rewrite your possible selves at least twice a year — the self you need to become changes as you grow.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Build a behavioral bridge to the possible self
Identify one specific behavior your hoped-for self does that you can do today — then do it.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Find living examples of your hoped-for self
Identify real people who embody your hoped-for self — their existence makes the representation concrete and credible.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Consult your future self
Imagine your wiser future self looking back on this moment, and ask what they’d want you to do.
Self-Distancing: Thinking Clearly About Your Own Problems - Write vivid imagined future scenes
Extend your life story into the future with specific, felt scenes — not just goals.
Narrative Identity, Made Practical - Invoke the possible self during setbacks
When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Elaborate your hoped-for possible self
Build a detailed, sensory-rich mental picture of a concrete future version of yourself — not an abstract goal, but a person.
Possible Selves, Made Practical - Translate the narrative into domain-specific goals
Break the future-life story into one concrete goal per life domain.
The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self - Write a letter from your future self
Have your 80-year-old self write back about the decision you’re facing now.
The Regret-Minimization Framework
Related concerns
- Possible Selves For My Teenager
Identify real people who embody your hoped-for self — their existence makes the representation concrete and credible.
Find living examples of your hoped-for self
- Hazel Markus Possible Selves
Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
- Possible Selves At Work
Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
- Possible Selves Elaboration
Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
- Possible Selves With Friends
Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
- Possible Selves With My Team
Hazel Markus’s possible-selves framework holds that motivation is driven not only by who we are now but by vivid mental representations of who we could become — including hoped-for and feared future selves. These cognitive structures provide direction and energy for behavior, and deliberately developing them is a tractable approach to sustained motivation.
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