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- I’ve settled on my position and I can feel how much I want it to be right, which is exactly why I don’t trust it yet
- I state every opinion like it’s flat-out fact, and then the other person hears a hard line and braces to defend theirs
- There are a few ways to read the view I’m up against, and I keep reaching for the flimsiest one because it’s the easiest to knock down
- I’m about to commit to this plan and I can feel how badly I want it to work
- My opinions have somehow become who I am, so when someone pushes back it lands like a personal attack and I dig in
Practices that may help
- Ask what alternative perspectives would say
Deliberately steelman the strongest objection to your current position before treating it as settled.
Socratic Questioning - State your confidence level alongside your position
"I’m about 70% confident on this" signals a reasoned estimate, not a fact claim.
Productive Disagreement, Made Practical - Find the strongest version of the opposing view
If there are multiple ways to interpret a position, choose the most defensible one.
Steelmanning - Steelman objections to your own plans
Before committing to a plan, state the strongest case against it in its most compelling form.
Steelmanning - Hold beliefs as estimates, not identity commitments
Treat each belief as a probability rather than a flag to plant.
The Scout Mindset - Find what is genuinely right about positions you disagree with
Most positions you strongly disagree with are right about something important — finding that part is intellectually obligatory.
Steelmanning - The broken-record technique
Calmly repeat your position without being derailed by arguments or guilt-trips.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Consider the opposite
Actively argue the case against your first conclusion before accepting it.
Thinking, Fast and Slow, Made Usable - Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis
For any belief you are testing, explicitly generate the strongest case for the opposing view.
Confirmation Bias: Seeing What You Expect to See - Examine the evidence for and against
Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
Check the Facts, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Confirmation Bias Consider The Opposite
For any belief you are testing, explicitly generate the strongest case for the opposing view.
Deliberately consider the opposite hypothesis
- When Productive Disagreement Disagree With Confidence Calibration
"I’m about 70% confident on this" signals a reasoned estimate, not a fact claim.
State your confidence level alongside your position
- How To Steelman
Steelmanning — popularized by Daniel Dennett as a core intellectual virtue — means reconstructing an opposing position in its strongest, most charitable form before responding to it. It is the deliberate inverse of strawmanning. The practice is well-established in philosophy and structured debate; direct experimental evidence for its effects on reasoning quality is limited, but its mechanism is logically sound.
- Seek Opposing Views
Deliberately steelman the strongest objection to your current position before treating it as settled.
Ask what alternative perspectives would say
- Steel Man Argument
Steelmanning — popularized by Daniel Dennett as a core intellectual virtue — means reconstructing an opposing position in its strongest, most charitable form before responding to it. It is the deliberate inverse of strawmanning. The practice is well-established in philosophy and structured debate; direct experimental evidence for its effects on reasoning quality is limited, but its mechanism is logically sound.
- Steel Manning Technique
Steelmanning — popularized by Daniel Dennett as a core intellectual virtue — means reconstructing an opposing position in its strongest, most charitable form before responding to it. It is the deliberate inverse of strawmanning. The practice is well-established in philosophy and structured debate; direct experimental evidence for its effects on reasoning quality is limited, but its mechanism is logically sound.
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