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• One bit of praise sends me soaring and one bit of criticism sinks me for days
• I get a page of praise and one line of criticism, and the one criticism is all I can see
• I keep wrapping my criticism in compliments the way I was taught to, and it just isn’t working
• Praise slides right off me because it feels like flattery I can’t trust, but I notice I actually relax when someone tells me the plain truth about myself
• One offhand remark or someone’s disapproval can hijack my whole mood for days, because somewhere I’ve made my sense of being okay depend on whether other people approve of me

Practices that may help

1. Practice equanimity toward the pairs of opposites
   Success and failure, pleasure and pain, gain and loss — the Gita teaches equal steadiness toward both.
   The Bhagavad Gita on Action: Nishkama Karma in Practice
2. Mental filter (negative attention bias)
   Focus on one negative detail while ignoring the broader positive picture.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
3. Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it
   The sandwich fails because it sends three conflicting signals at once.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
5. Let go of others’ opinions of you
   Another’s contempt is their judgment, not your business; only your own conduct is yours to mind.
   The Enchiridion, as a Handbook
6. Use downward comparison with care
   Occasionally — not constantly — compare to those facing greater difficulty to restore perspective without becoming dismissive.
   The Comparison Trap
7. Make praise as specific as criticism
   Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
8. Identify where your self-esteem is contingent
   Map the specific conditions your self-worth currently depends on so you can see the fragility clearly.
   Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
9. Reframe the critic’s verdict as data, not identity
   When the critic says "you failed," redirect to "what can I learn?" — a specific question, not a pep talk.
   Working With Your Inner Critic
10. Recognizing Shame and Self-Criticism Patterns
    Name the specific self-critical scripts and their triggers before trying to change them.
    Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic

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