Coaching practices for My Praise is All Vague Nice Work Good Stuff While Every Critique I Give is Razor Specific So My People Never Actually Know Which Thing to Do More of and My Compliments Have Stopped Carrying Any Weight Next to My Corrections

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• My praise is all vague "nice work, good stuff" while every critique I give is razor-specific
• When someone does something genuinely great I just toss off a "nice work" and move on, and it barely registers
• I keep wrapping my criticism in compliments the way I was taught to, and it just isn’t working
• Praise slides right off me because it feels like flattery I can’t trust, but I notice I actually relax when someone tells me the plain truth about myself
• I praise my kid constantly

Practices that may help

1. Make praise as specific as criticism
   Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
2. Use SBI for positive feedback, not just correction
   Name the situation, behavior, and impact when someone does something right.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
3. Understand why the sandwich fails before replacing it
   The sandwich fails because it sends three conflicting signals at once.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
4. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
5. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
   "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
   Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
6. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Give recognition that names the person’s specific effort, not just the outcome
   Generic praise signals you were not paying attention; specific recognition proves you were.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
8. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
   Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
9. Use specific verbal affirmation from credible sources
   Seek out specific, skill-referenced feedback from people who have seen you perform — not generic encouragement.
   Mastery Experiences
10. Feedback: extract the signal, ignore the noise
    Seek feedback fast, but use the part that actually tells you how to improve.
    Ultralearning: Aggressive, Self-Directed Learning

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