Coaching practices for I've Read All the Tips About Eye Contact and Posture but the Harder I Work to Perform the Right Body Language the More Wooden I Feel Because Underneath I'm Anxious and Trying to Mask it Just Makes the Strain Show Through

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• I read that copying people’s body language builds rapport, so now I’m so busy consciously mirroring their posture that I come across stiff and fake
• Even when I’ve got the right words, my voice goes shaky and my sentences tilt up into questions, and the apology in my body
• I go through the motions of acting brave or calm but my shoulders stay hunched, my voice stays flat, and my mind keeps replaying the threat
• I say the firm thing but my voice goes up at the end like a question, my eyes drop, and I tack on a nervous little laugh

Practices that may help

1. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. Allow natural behavioral mimicry rather than forcing it
   Unconscious mirroring happens automatically in warm interactions — over-deliberate mirroring breaks it.
   Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical
3. Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
   Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
   DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
4. Do the opposite action all the way
   Commit to the opposite fully — posture, voice, attention — not half-heartedly.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
5. Match your body to your words
   Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
   Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
6. Create a pre-performance ritual that includes posture
   A consistent pre-performance ritual — including posture — reduces anxiety and improves performance more reliably than any single element.
   Power Posing Revisited
7. Adopt expansive posture to shift subjective confidence
   Upright, open posture — not a "power pose" — reliably correlates with higher self-reported confidence, even if the hormone claims did not hold.
   Power Posing Revisited
8. Set your posture before high-stakes moments
   Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
9. Build scripts for situation entry and transitions
   Prepare simple, natural openers and transitions so you’re not improvising from scratch under pressure.
   Overcoming Shyness: Philip Zimbardo’s Framework
10. Posture and embodied confidence
    Getting stronger tends to change how you carry yourself — and that feeds back.
    Strength Training for Confidence

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