Coaching practices for My One on Ones Sprawl and End with Nothing Decided I Open with So What's the Problem and We Drift Because I Never Pin Down What This Particular Conversation is Actually Supposed to Land on by the Time We're Done
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- My one-on-ones sprawl and end with nothing decided
- We have a good talk, everyone leaves nodding and feeling better
- I walk into these talks already certain I know exactly what happened and just there to deliver my conclusion
- The way I open these talks dooms them
- My one-on-ones always open with a status check
Practices that may help
- Set the Goal — establish what the conversation is for
Begin every coaching conversation by clarifying what the person wants to achieve in this session.
The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People - Move to action
Close the conversation by deciding how decisions get made, then assigning who does what by when.
Crucial Conversations, Made Practical - Adopt the learning stance
Trade "I know what happened" for "I want to understand what happened for you".
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Build a shared "third story"
Open with a neutral framing both sides could accept, not your version of events.
Difficult Conversations, Made Practical - Open with "What’s on your mind?"
The best opening question is also the most open — it invites exactly what the person most needs to talk about.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Spend real time on growth, not just tasks
Regularly leave the weeds and talk about career, skills, and where they’re headed.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - End every check-in with a connecting moment
Close the conversation with something that anchors you in the relationship, not the problems.
The Relationship Check-In: A Structured Practice for Staying Connected - Ask open-ended questions
Replace yes/no questions with ones that invite the speaker to open up.
Active Listening, Made Practical - Three-goals prioritization: objective, relationship, or self-respect?
Before entering a difficult conversation, decide which of the three goals matters most right now.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Find mutual purpose
Establish a shared goal both people care about so the conversation is "us vs the problem".
Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
Related concerns
- How To Align In Difficult Talks
Establish a shared goal both people care about so the conversation is "us vs the problem".
Find mutual purpose
- Connection Versus Conversation
Separate what happened, the feelings, and the identity stakes — they’re tangled and need different handling.
Untangle the three conversations
- Difficult Conversations Before Bed
A difficult conversation started at the wrong moment fails before it starts.
Choose the right time to begin
- Open Ended Questions One On One
The best opening question is also the most open — it invites exactly what the person most needs to talk about.
Open with "What’s on your mind?"
- When Circle Process Check In Check Out
Every circle opens with a personal check-in and closes with a check-out — creating a container with a beginning and an end.
Use check-in and check-out rounds to hold the whole person
- When The Relationship Check In End With Connection
Close the conversation with something that anchors you in the relationship, not the problems.
End every check-in with a connecting moment
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