Coaching practices for I'm Pulled in a Dozen Directions and None of Them is Clearly the Thing I Want a Disciplined Way to Figure Out Where What I'm Genuinely Good at What Lights Me Up and What Could Actually Pay the Bills All Overlap Instead of Just Follow Your Passion
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’m pulled in a dozen directions and none of them is clearly the thing
- I’ve got two or three things I’m genuinely into, and I keep feeling like having more than one means I’m scattered and unfocused
- I keep choosing projects based on what I think will impress people or do well, and then I stall out halfway through because deep down they never actually moved me
- I keep judging whether something’s for me by whether it felt fun in the moment, but plenty of things feel pleasant and go nowhere
- I think I’m passionate about the things I’m supposed to want
Practices that may help
- Map your three circles honestly
Separately answer each circle — passion, best-at, economic engine — before looking for the intersection.
The Hedgehog Concept - Allow multiple active interests without forcing a hierarchy
Having more than one developing interest is not a sign of lost focus — it’s how passion develops for many people.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Follow genuine interest, not strategic interest
Pursue the thing that genuinely excites you — even if you cannot explain why or see how it fits.
The Creative Act: Rick Rubin’s Approach to Making - Track what makes you ask questions, not what makes you feel good
Curiosity is a better signal for developing passion than pleasure.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work. - Test passion with the energy-after test
Passion is revealed by what energizes you after doing it — not by what you aspire to love.
The Hedgehog Concept - Ikigai quarterly review
Every three months, map the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.
Purpose Anchors: Keeping Meaning Accessible Day to Day - Write your Workview and Lifeview
Articulate what work is for and what life is for — then check whether they point the same way.
Designing Your Life, Made Practical - Find your hedgehog concept — the one thing you can be best at
Identify the intersection of what you can be best at, what drives your economic engine, and what you are deeply passionate about.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Sample widely before committing to a niche
Premature specialization forecloses interests you haven’t discovered yet.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love
Related concerns
- Find What You Love Doing
Track the activities where time disappears — they point toward love and skill at once.
Follow flow as a clue
- Find Your Passion Myth
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- Follow Your Passion Research
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- How Do I Know If I Should Quit My Job To Pursue My Business Passions
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- How To Find Interests
Premature specialization forecloses interests you haven’t discovered yet.
Sample widely before committing to a niche
- How To Find Your Passion
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
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