Coaching practices for On Paper I'm Good at My Job but Certain Parts of it Leave Me Hollowed Out Even When I Do Them Well and I Can't Tell Anymore Which Bits of My Work Actually Light Me Up Versus Which Ones I'm Just Competent at While They Quietly Drain Me
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- On paper I’m good at my job, but certain parts of it leave me hollowed out even when I do them well
- On paper my life looks successful
- On paper my life has all the right pieces
- On paper nothing’s wrong
- My work feels like it disappears into a void
Practices that may help
- Identify your two working geniuses
Name the two of the six activities that consistently energize you, not just where you perform well.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Audit your life against PERMA
Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
Positive Psychology, Made Practical - Ikigai quarterly review
Every three months, map the intersection of what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.
Purpose Anchors: Keeping Meaning Accessible Day to Day - Monitor intrinsic interest over time
Overjustification is a slow erosion — check whether you still find the work interesting, not just whether you’re doing it.
The Overjustification Effect: When Rewards Kill Motivation - Clarify how your role contributes to others
Map the concrete downstream impact your work and presence have on specific people.
Mattering: Feeling Like You Count - Design "Goldilocks" tasks
Pitch work at not-too-easy, not-too-hard to sustain engagement toward mastery.
Drive: Autonomy, Mastery, and Purpose - Distinguish catalysts and nourishers from their opposites
Catalysts support the work itself; nourishers support the person doing it — both matter.
The Progress Principle: Why Small Wins Fuel Motivation - Name frustrations without shame
Frustrations are not weaknesses — they’re a mismatch signal that the team can act on.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Stop surface acting
Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical - Drain the shallows
Aggressively limit and batch low-value shallow work so it doesn’t crowd out deep work.
Deep Work, Made Practical
Related concerns
- When Anti Goals Lifestyle Anti Goals
The quality of your daily experience matters — define the daily conditions you refuse to accept, not just the outcomes.
Set lifestyle anti-goals to protect daily experience, not just outcomes
- When Aristotelian Eudaimonia Eudaimonia Audit
Check well-being across all five pillars — emotion, engagement, relationships, meaning, accomplishment.
Audit your life against PERMA
- When The Overjustification Effect Monitor The Long Run
Overjustification is a slow erosion — check whether you still find the work interesting, not just whether you’re doing it.
Monitor intrinsic interest over time
- Align Work And Life
Articulate what work is for and what life is for — then check whether they point the same way.
Write your Workview and Lifeview
- Awe And Well Being At Work
Awe — the emotion triggered by encountering something vast that challenges your current mental frameworks — reliably reduces self-focused thinking, lowers inflammatory markers in some studies, increases prosocial behavior, and expands the perceived sense of time available. Dacher Keltner’s research shows awe is more accessible than people think and can be deliberately cultivated without waiting for once-in-a-decade peak experiences.
- Circle Of Competence When Burned Out
Maintain relationships and practices outside the organizational system that restore perspective and capacity.
Build sanctuaries for renewal outside the system
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