Coaching practices for Written Confirmation Agreements

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• We just shook on something important and the conversation felt totally clear to both of us
• We’ve just shaken hands on something we both accepted, but I have this nagging sense the deal isn’t as good as it could be for either of us
• We finally reached a deal, but I have this nagging sense we both grabbed the first version that worked just to be done
• We shook hands on the idea feeling great, then a week later it fell apart because it turned out each of us had pictured something completely different
• The offer in front of me is below what I swore I’d accept, and I can feel myself reaching for a reason to say yes anyway

Practices that may help

1. Document key agreements in writing across the style gap
   For important decisions, put the explicit agreement in writing even when the verbal exchange seemed clear.
   High-Context and Low-Context Communication
2. Propose a post-settlement settlement to optimize an agreed deal
   After reaching a deal, offer to see if you can both do better — many agreements leave joint value on the table.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
3. Commitment Contracts, Made Practical
   A commitment contract binds your future self to a course of action by attaching real costs — financial, social, or reputational — to failure. The evidence from savings programs and behavioral economics is solid for financial commitments; effects on health and habit change are positive but more variable, and contracts work best when you already want to change.
4. Precommitment Devices (Ulysses Contracts)
   A precommitment device is a constraint you impose on your future self while you still have the clarity to want the right thing — locking in a choice so the weaker, in-the-moment you cannot undo it. Commitment contracts (including ones with real money or social stakes) have solid experimental support, though they help most for people already motivated to change.
5. Use a post-settlement settlement to improve a deal after agreement
   Once you have a deal, offer to keep exploring whether a better one exists for both sides.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
6. Make the third alternative tangible with a prototype or model
   Turn an abstract third-alternative idea into something both parties can react to together.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
7. Walk away cleanly when the deal falls below your reservation price
   Saying no to a bad deal — and meaning it — is the practice that gives all the others their teeth.
   BATNA: Your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement
8. Bridge disagreements with contingent terms
   When you disagree about the future, bet on it — tie terms to what actually happens.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
9. BATNA: Your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement
   BATNA (Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement), developed by Fisher, Ury, and Patton in Getting to Yes, is what you will do if this negotiation fails completely. It is the only rational basis for your walk-away point. A strong BATNA gives you genuine power because you can credibly walk away; a weak BATNA means any deal is better than your alternative, and a skilled counterpart will sense and exploit that.
10. Attach a real consequence to misses
    Agree in advance on a concrete cost for not following through.
    Accountability Partners

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