Coaching practices for How to Confirm What Was Agreed

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• We just shook on something important and the conversation felt totally clear to both of us
• We’ve just shaken hands on something we both accepted, but I have this nagging sense the deal isn’t as good as it could be for either of us
• We shook hands on the idea feeling great, then a week later it fell apart because it turned out each of us had pictured something completely different
• The deal is closed and fine, but I keep negotiating in the dark
• My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"

Practices that may help

1. Document key agreements in writing across the style gap
   For important decisions, put the explicit agreement in writing even when the verbal exchange seemed clear.
   High-Context and Low-Context Communication
2. Propose a post-settlement settlement to optimize an agreed deal
   After reaching a deal, offer to see if you can both do better — many agreements leave joint value on the table.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
3. Make the third alternative tangible with a prototype or model
   Turn an abstract third-alternative idea into something both parties can react to together.
   The Third Alternative, Made Practical
4. Run a negotiation debrief to learn what value was left on the table
   After closing, compare priorities with the other side to see the trades you both missed.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
5. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
   Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
6. Move to action
   Close the conversation by deciding how decisions get made, then assigning who does what by when.
   Crucial Conversations, Made Practical
7. Bridge disagreements with contingent terms
   When you disagree about the future, bet on it — tie terms to what actually happens.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
8. Use a post-settlement settlement to improve a deal after agreement
   Once you have a deal, offer to keep exploring whether a better one exists for both sides.
   Expanding the Pie: Negotiation Beyond Splitting the Difference
9. Make them solve the implementation for you
   Ask "What does success look like?" and "How do we get there?" to make the other side do the planning.
   Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
10. Paraphrase to check understanding
    Restate the speaker’s point in your own words and ask if you got it right.
    Active Listening, Made Practical

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