Coaching für die Herausforderungen, die Menschen wirklich mitbringen (page 152)

The slow, systematic sweep · Body Scan Meditation, Made Practical · The 3-minute body check-in — a daily-life bridge + 7 more

Working with drowsiness — staying present while lying down · The slow, systematic sweep · Working with sloth-and-torpor (thina-middha) + 7 more

Yoga body scan for interoceptive stress awareness · Body Scan Meditation, Made Practical · Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it + 7 more

Applying the body scan to chronic or acute pain · Identify whether pain is likely neuroplastic · The slow, systematic sweep + 7 more

Body Scan Meditation, Made Practical · Yoga body scan for interoceptive stress awareness · The 3-minute body check-in — a daily-life bridge + 7 more

Pendulation, Made Practical · Apply pendulation to everyday stress (not just trauma) · Use repeated pendulation to widen the window of tolerance + 7 more

The slow, systematic sweep · External focus: redirect attention away from bodily sensations · Post-induction body scan to observe without catastrophizing + 7 more

Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) · Take time for training — teach the skill, not just the rule · Recognize what is not happening with proactive recognition + 7 more

The foundational stance — observing, not fixing · The slow, systematic sweep · Body Scan Meditation, Made Practical + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options · Invent options for mutual gain + 7 more

Working with drowsiness — staying present while lying down · The slow, systematic sweep · Use non-sleep deep rest (NSDR) for a midday reset + 7 more

Insist on objective criteria · Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Negotiation jujitsu + 7 more

Track body sensation (the felt sense) · Use body boundary awareness to build felt safety · Practice noticing what your body is doing + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Separate the people from the problem · Invent options for mutual gain + 7 more

Read bodily signals as information · Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it · Interoception, Explained + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Separate the people from the problem · Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation + 7 more

Read bodily signals as information · Understand the function of the emotion · Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Invent options for mutual gain · Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation + 7 more

Read bodily signals as information · Use soothing touch as a physiological anchor · Interoception, Explained + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Invent options for mutual gain · Insist on objective criteria + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take · Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation + 7 more

Five-minute bodyweight circuit as a strength snack · Design a 5-minute bodyweight routine as your default snack · Exercise Snacks: Short Bursts of Movement That Actually Work + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation · Insist on objective criteria to evaluate options + 7 more

Master the core 12-exercise HICT circuit · Do multiple rounds when fitness is the goal · Five-minute bodyweight circuit as a strength snack + 7 more

Acknowledge emotions explicitly in negotiation · Separate the people from the problem · Negotiation jujitsu + 7 more

Five-minute bodyweight circuit as a strength snack · Master the core 12-exercise HICT circuit · Design a 5-minute bodyweight routine as your default snack + 7 more

Acknowledge emotions explicitly in negotiation · Separate the people from the problem · Principled Negotiation, Made Practical + 7 more

Five-minute bodyweight circuit as a strength snack · Exercise Snacks: Short Bursts of Movement That Actually Work · Exercise Snacking, Made Practical + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Invent options for mutual gain · Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation + 7 more

Select the right movements for GTG · Never train to failure — ever, during GTG · Train at 40-60% of maximum — the sub-maximal effort rule + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Separate the people from the problem · Separate the people from the problem + 7 more

Layer two: bold the most essential phrases · Layer one: highlight the most important sentences · Highlighting audit and replacement + 7 more

Separate the people from the problem · Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Separate the people from the problem + 7 more

Make bold predictions — then check them · Treat forecasting accuracy as a skill that improves with practice · Practice probabilistic calibration by tracking your predictions + 7 more

Principled Negotiation, Made Practical · Invent options for mutual gain · Separate the people from the problem + 7 more

BOLT score — measure your CO2 tolerance · Box Breathing, Made Practical · Paced breathing: make the exhale longer than the inhale + 7 more

Use shared activities rather than conversation alone to build bonds · Surface genuine shared values and experiences early · Use public commitment to close the action gap + 7 more

Recognition-Primed Decision Making · Override recognition and deliberate when the situation is genuinely novel · Trust the recognition heuristic in uncertain environments + 7 more

Direct unexpected income entirely to the targeted debt · Automate the extra payment on the target debt the day after payday · Pay minimums on all debts, then attack the smallest with every extra dollar + 7 more

Repair the relationship after a boundary, not the boundary · Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively + 7 more

Fund and schedule one item now · Chunk and schedule time for key results · Activate someday items when life opens up, not just when you decide to + 7 more

Name the "before" and create a deliberate "after" · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively · Tolerate the guilt and pushback + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Communicate boundaries directly · Saying No and Holding Boundaries + 7 more

Commit to ten pages of meaningful reading each day · Reading · Use a dedicated e-reader instead of a phone for reading + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Communicate boundaries directly · Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits + 7 more

Understand why systems oscillate — and stop overcorrecting · Watch for lollapalooza effects — multiple models pointing the same direction · Invest resources in gain-loops when conditions allow + 7 more

Set a screen cutoff time · Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively + 7 more

Catch the boomerang effect in yourself · Avoid negative social proof (the "everyone is doing it wrong" mistake) · Hyperbolic Discounting — Why Future You Always Gets the Short End + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Tolerate the guilt and pushback · Recognize the types of boundaries + 7 more

Catch the boomerang effect in yourself · Psychological Reactance: Working With the Push-Back Reflex · Understand why systems oscillate — and stop overcorrecting + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Follow through with consequences · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively + 7 more

Roll with the punches · Protect the 30% wants budget as a deliberate allocation · Run a quarterly budget review to reset the allocations + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Set a non-negotiable floor for each burner · Recognize the types of boundaries + 7 more

Recognize the types of boundaries · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively · Setting Boundaries, Made Practical + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Communicate boundaries directly · Recognize the types of boundaries + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Communicate boundaries directly · Apply it to boundaries (let them, then hold yours) + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Communicate boundaries directly · Recognize the types of boundaries + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Recognize the types of boundaries · Clarify what people can decide without asking + 7 more

Name shame when it is happening · Speak shame before you act from it · Receive others’ shame with empathy, not advice or sympathy + 7 more

Name shame when it is happening · Shame Resilience, Made Practical · Identify your shame triggers and their cultural context + 7 more

The Two-Process Model of Sleep · Use the bed only for sleep (and sex) · Learn the two-process model of sleep + 7 more

Boredom and Creativity: Why Your Best Ideas Need Idle Time · Journal during boring tasks · Boredom Tolerance + 7 more

Recognizing the dark night versus depression or failure · Seeking a guide who knows this territory · Allowing the "divine therapy" — psychological healing through practice + 7 more

Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue · Schedule a worry time earlier in the day · Social Cognitive Theory + 7 more

Journal during boring tasks · The distanced daily debrief · Emotion journaling using the Feeling Wheel as a prompt + 7 more

Social Cognitive Theory · Use reciprocal determinism to change behavior by changing environment or cognition first · Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior + 7 more

Rebuild your tolerance for boredom · Boredom Tolerance · Wait in queues without your phone + 7 more

Inventory your coping resources (secondary appraisal) · Shift from one-person to two-person psychology · Map your stress response (conceptualization phase) + 7 more

Boredom Tolerance · Sit with boredom intentionally · Build boredom tolerance gradually + 7 more

Social Cognitive Theory · Use similarity to connect, not to seek validation · Counteract propinquity bias in friend selection + 7 more

Sit with boredom intentionally · Wait in queues without your phone · Build boredom tolerance gradually + 7 more

Calibrate the Borg scale to your actual physiology · Scaling Questions · Scope Insensitivity: Why Scale Doesn’t Change Your Feelings + 7 more

Calibrate the Borg scale to your actual physiology · Use RPE to set cardio intensity without heart rate monitors · The RPE Scale + 7 more

Calibrate the Borg scale to your actual physiology · Scaling Questions · The RPE Scale + 7 more

Use monotonous tasks as attentional training · Selective attention to individual sounds · Re-engage boring tasks by finding a process goal + 7 more

Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance · Share wins with someone who will genuinely celebrate with you + 7 more

Re-engage boring tasks by finding a process goal · Use a routine physical task to incubate a creative problem · Use monotonous tasks as attentional training + 7 more

Run a structured mastery debrief after each performance · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Use fresh start framing after identity-threatening failures + 7 more

Use co-regulation to grow self-regulation · Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System · The calm “late-night FM DJ” voice + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof + 7 more

Borrow the conventions of a different field and apply them to yours · Deliberately explore the most unlikely combinations · Steal, steal, then remix + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof + 7 more

Simulate the adversary’s response to your move · Negotiation jujitsu · Trade across differing priorities + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Harness visible commitment in group settings + 7 more

Teach the four zones and what each one feels like · Situation selection · Simple affect label: say the emotion word aloud or in writing + 7 more

Decompose tasks and sum the pieces · Anchor on the base rate before adding inside-view details · Decompose complex questions into sub-questions + 7 more

Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Harness visible commitment in group settings · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof + 7 more

Write from your notes, bottom-up · Write to the question your reader has in mind, not the question you found interesting · Use parallel structure across every level of the pyramid + 7 more

Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Social Proof, Made Practical · Use expert endorsement for high-stakes decisions + 7 more

Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal · Recover promotion-focus motivation through approach-reminders after setbacks · Schedule retrieval and re-challenge with spaced repetition + 7 more

Make the day after a miss non-negotiable · Apply the never-miss-twice rule when the chain does break · Pair the rule with self-compassion, not self-criticism + 7 more

The self-compassion break · N — Nurture with self-compassion · Self-compassion through the distancing lens + 7 more

Recover from setbacks without quitting the goal · Recover promotion-focus motivation through approach-reminders after setbacks · Use a landmark to recover after a lapse + 7 more

Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Social Proof, Made Practical + 7 more

State the limit, then name the consequence clearly · Design logical consequences that are directly related to the behavior · Follow through on the stated consequence calmly and without anger + 7 more

Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Harness visible commitment in group settings + 7 more

Choose the right time to begin · Schedule boundary conversations — don’t have them reactively · Use it as a pause before a difficult response + 7 more

Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Harness visible commitment in group settings · Social Proof, Made Practical + 7 more

Setting Boundaries, Made Practical · Recognize the types of boundaries · Know and mark the edges of your circle + 7 more

Social Proof, Made Practical · Use peer-specific social proof, not generic popularity · Recognize that uncertainty amplifies social proof + 7 more