Disclose your own interests explicitly — not just your positions
Stating what you actually need — not just what you’re asking for — opens the door to creative solutions you couldn’t have imagined asking for.
Why it works
Most negotiators state positions because interests feel vulnerable to share. But the research on integrative bargaining is clear: mutual interest disclosure produces better outcomes for both parties. When you state your interest, you invite the counterpart to find solutions you hadn’t thought of — and you give them information needed to help you without extracting concessions they don’t need to make.
How to do it
- Prepare your interest statement: "What I really need here is X" — specific enough to be useful, honest enough to be real.
- Share it before proposing your position, not after the position has anchored the conversation.
- Invite reciprocal disclosure: "I’ve told you what I need — help me understand what matters most to you."
Evidence
Studies on negotiation information exchange find that one-sided disclosure helps the disclosing party modestly; mutual disclosure produces substantially better joint outcomes, with no disadvantage to the first mover when the counterpart responds in kind. (observational)
First-mover disclosure has strategic risk if the counterpart does not reciprocate — the information asymmetry can be exploited. Build enough relational trust before leading with interests in adversarial contexts.
Sources
- Thompson (1991), information exchange in dyadic negotiation
- Thompson, L. (1991). Information exchange in negotiation. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 27(2), 161-179.
Common mistake
Stating your position as your interest — "I need $80,000" is a position, not an interest. "I need to match my current cost of living and feel the role is valued appropriately" is an interest.
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More practices for Interests vs. Positions: The Core of Integrative Negotiation
- Ask "why" before proposing any solution
Understand the interest driving a position before generating any solution — solutions invented before interests are understood usually solve the wrong problem.
- Map interests for both sides before generating solutions
Write down both parties’ known and inferred interests before proposing anything — the map reveals trades that no single position could.
- Identify compatible interests for joint gain
When both sides care about the same thing — quality, reputation, timing — agreements that serve that shared interest outperform splits.
- Trade across issues where each side has different priorities
Give the counterpart what they care most about; get what you care most about — logrolling is only possible when interests differ.
- Distinguish substantive, procedural, and psychological interests
The interest behind a position is often not about the money or the terms — it may be about face, fairness, or control.
Related concepts
- Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
The four-element framework for reaching agreements that hold
- BATNA: Your Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement
Walk-away power, realistic alternatives, and why your BATNA is your negotiating power
- ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
Mapping the deal space, identifying overlap, and knowing when no deal is the right outcome
- Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Made Practical
The four components, the mechanisms behind them, and an honest read on the evidence