Coaching practices for Active Listening with My Team
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- While my people are still talking I’m already loading up my reply
- While the other person is still talking I’m already loading up my comeback, barely hearing them
- The moment one of my people starts talking I’m already half-composing my answer, jumping in to fix it before they’ve even finished
- I notice that while someone’s still talking I’m already loading my rebuttal, so I half-hear them and they can tell
- In these conversations I fire off question after question like an interrogation, and the other person closes up rather than opening
Practices that may help
- Active Listening, Made Practical
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically. - Listen to understand, not to load your response
Most managers listen while mentally composing their reply — real coaching listening is for understanding, not rebuttal-preparation.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Be Interested: listen and show that you are listening
Attend to the other person’s perspective with genuine curiosity, not just patience.
GIVE: DBT’s Skill for Preserving Relationships During Difficult Conversations - Listen deeply before responding
Greenleaf’s servant-leader is "a listener first" — understanding precedes directing.
Servant Leadership, Made Practical - Silent witness listening
Practice hearing another person completely without preparing your response.
Ho'oponopono: Hawaiian Forgiveness and Reconciliation - Use OARS to make the person feel understood
Open questions, Affirmations, Reflections, Summaries — the four core micro-skills.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Acknowledge what you heard before advancing to advice
A solution offered before the speaker feels heard is usually rejected, even when it is correct.
The Leader as Coach: A New Management Paradigm - Listen far more than you talk
Aim to talk a fraction of the time; your silence is what makes space for the real issues.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Default to asynchronous communication
Treat real-time communication as the exception, not the default — most things do not require an immediate response.
Designing a Calm Company (Fried & Hansson) - Listen charismatically
Make the other person feel they’re the only one in the room — pause before you reply.
The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Active Listening
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening Leadership
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening Skills
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening At Work
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
- Active Listening During A Big Change
Most managers listen while mentally composing their reply — real coaching listening is for understanding, not rebuttal-preparation.
Listen to understand, not to load your response
- Active Listening On A Budget
Active listening is a set of skills — reflecting back what you heard, paraphrasing meaning, using minimal encouragers, and withholding advice until the speaker feels understood — that makes another person feel genuinely heard. It grew out of client-centered counseling and has real observational and clinical support, though effects depend on doing it sincerely, not mechanically.
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