Coaching practices for Assertiveness Training in a New Job
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- I say the firm thing but my voice goes up at the end like a question, my eyes drop, and I tack on a nervous little laugh
- I’m about to meet someone important for the first time and I have no read on them yet
- Even when I’ve got the right words, my voice goes shaky and my sentences tilt up into questions, and the apology in my body
- I’ve told my people a hundred times they can disagree with me, but they still don’t
- I just took over a brand-new team and everyone’s being polite and looking to me for everything
Practices that may help
- Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings. - Match your body to your words
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
Assertiveness Training, Made Practical - Read assertiveness and responsiveness quickly
Observe whether someone talks more than they listen (assertiveness) and whether they show emotion openly (responsiveness).
Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate - Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Teach speak-up skills, not just encourage speaking up
Give team members specific language for raising concerns, not just permission to raise them.
Psychological Safety in Teams - Forming: provide clarity before connection
In the first stage, a new team needs structure and purpose more than it needs team-building.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - DEAR MAN for interpersonal effectiveness
A structured script — Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate — for asking and saying no.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical - DEAR MAN: making effective requests
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Describe the situation with observable facts
State what actually happened — just the observable facts, without interpretation.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Set your posture before high-stakes moments
Take a private moment to settle into a confident posture before a presentation or hard talk.
Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
Related concerns
- Assertiveness Training When Starting Out
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- How To Be More Assertive At Work Podcast
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- Assertive Communication Skills
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
Match your body to your words
- Assertive Communication Steps
Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
- Assertiveness Techniques
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
- Assertiveness Training At Work
Assertiveness training is a set of learnable skills — using I-statements, the broken-record technique, fogging, and saying no without over-justifying — that let you express needs and limits directly without aggression or passivity. It comes out of behavior therapy and social-skills training and has a genuine clinical basis, taught for decades in therapeutic settings.
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