Coaching practices for Avoidance in Compassion Practice
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- Every time I get near a certain kind of suffering in this practice I notice myself flinch and want to stop or look away
- There’s this one thing I keep putting off
- There’s one particular person I can’t even think about without my whole body tightening with resentment
- The moment a hard feeling rises in me, I instinctively clench away from it or bolt for a distraction
- The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it
Practices that may help
- Investigate resistance to the practice honestly
The impulse not to breathe in suffering is information about where your self-protective contraction lives.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Confront avoidance with compassionate courage
Do the hard thing — the difficult conversation, the scary action — because you care about your future self.
Fierce Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Compassion meditation for widening the circle
Extend deliberate well-wishing to people you find difficult, building non-aversion before you encounter them.
Ahimsa: Non-Violence as a Daily Practice - Meeting emotion in open presence
When a difficult emotion arises during open monitoring, stay in the witnessing position rather than contracting or escaping.
Open Monitoring Meditation, Made Practical - Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
Emotional Agility, Made Practical - Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Practice willingness to carry discomfort
Treat the presence of discomfort as neutral data, not a stop sign.
Committed Action, Made Practical - Cultivate Self through directed inner compassion
Practice sending compassion inward — toward the parts that are suffering — to build the Self-energy those parts need.
IFS Self Energy, Made Practical - Mindful awareness of suffering
Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
Self-Compassion, Made Practical - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
Related concerns
- When Tonglen Tonglen Resistance Investigation
The impulse not to breathe in suffering is information about where your self-protective contraction lives.
Investigate resistance to the practice honestly
- Self Compassion Tonglen
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
- When Tonglen Tonglen For Self
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
- Acceptance Of Suffering Buddhism
Acknowledge suffering as it actually is — without dramatising it or spiritual-bypassing it.
First noble truth — recognising dukkha honestly
- Acknowledging Suffering Buddhist
Acknowledge suffering as it actually is — without dramatising it or spiritual-bypassing it.
- Assertiveness Self Compassion
Say the hard thing — the feedback, the disagreement, the "this is wrong" — from a grounded, caring place.
Speak difficult truths from strength, not submission
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