Coaching practices for I've Been Fighting and Trying to Push Away My Own Pain and it Only Tightens Its Grip I'm Starting to Wonder What Would Happen If Instead of Running From This Feeling I Actually Turned Toward it and Breathed it All the Way in

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• I’ve been fighting and trying to push away my own pain and it only tightens its grip
• The moment a hard feeling rises I clamp down against it and brace, trying to push it away
• My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
• I spend so much energy trying to push down or get rid of what I feel, and it just comes back stronger
• I keep trying to shove this feeling down or talk myself out of it, and the harder I fight it the worse it gets

Practices that may help

1. Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
   Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
2. Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
   When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
3. Tonglen: sending and taking
   Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
   Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training
4. Acceptance (willingness)
   Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
   Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
5. A — Allow the experience to be as it is
   Let what is present be here, without pushing it away, numbing it, or elaborating it.
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
6. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
7. Welcome experience rather than manage it
   Shift from trying to control or fix your experience to meeting it with open, allowing awareness.
   Non-Dual Awareness, Made Practical
8. Relax and release stuck energy
   When emotion grips, consciously relax and let the energy move through instead of clamping down.
   The Untethered Soul, In Practice
9. Investigate resistance to the practice honestly
   The impulse not to breathe in suffering is information about where your self-protective contraction lives.
   Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
10. Allow the sensations without resisting
    Let the physical feelings of anxiety be present instead of bracing against them.
    The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical

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