Coaching practices for Check the Facts for My Teenager
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- Okay, I’ve sorted out whether the feeling fits
- My mind keeps stacking up every reason I’m right that this went badly, and I can’t seem to see anything that points the other way
- My child can name their feelings now, but only ever once they’ve already blown up
- I’ve looked at it from every angle and I still can’t tell whether I’m genuinely being wronged here or whether my reaction is way bigger than the situation deserves
- There’s an area of my life
Practices that may help
- Check the Facts, Made Practical
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts. - Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Examine the evidence for and against
Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Build zone check-ins into the daily routine
Asking "what zone are you in?" regularly makes zone awareness automatic rather than crisis-only.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - The practice of living consciously
Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Review past beliefs for what evidence did and didn’t move them
Look back at past beliefs and ask: what would have changed my mind then, and did I let it?
Falsification Thinking - Analyze your log for patterns and surprises
After logging, find the two or three surprising facts — not the obvious ones.
The Time Audit - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Actively seek evidence that would prove you wrong
Ask what would change your mind — and then look for it.
The Scout Mindset
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- Check The Facts With My Team
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts As A Parent
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts At Work
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts With Friends
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts As A Caregiver
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts In A New Job
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
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