Coaching practices for Compassion Focused Therapy Breathing
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Every time I try to be gentle with myself my body’s still wound tight and braced, and the calming part just won’t take
- I’ve been fighting and trying to push away my own pain and it only tightens its grip
- My whole instinct is to push pain away and grab at anything that feels good, and I’m tired of how walled-off that makes me
- When everything’s falling apart I have nobody in my head to turn to
- Someone I love is suffering and there is nothing I can actually do to fix it, and that helplessness is unbearable
Practices that may help
- Soothing Rhythm Breathing
Use slow, rhythmic breathing to deliberately activate the physiological soothing system before other compassion practices.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic
Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), developed by Paul Gilbert, targets shame and self-criticism by training a compassionate inner voice to replace the punitive self-critic. It draws on evolutionary psychology and affective neuroscience — specifically, the finding that different emotional systems (threat, drive, soothing) have distinct neurobiological profiles. A growing body of RCT evidence supports CFT for shame-based difficulties, self-criticism, and depression, though the evidence base is smaller than for CBT. - Practice tonglen for your own suffering first
Use your own current pain as the object before extending the practice to others.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Tonglen: sending and taking
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Lojong: Tibetan Mind Training - Compassionate Imagery: The Compassionate Image and Safe Place
Develop a vivid compassionate figure in imagination whose care you can access during distress.
Compassion-Focused Therapy: Calming the Inner Critic - Direct tonglen toward a specific suffering person
Bring a person who is suffering to mind and breathe in their pain; breathe out whatever would give them relief.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Paced breathing: make the exhale longer than the inhale
Breathe in for 4 counts, out for 6–8 — the extended exhale activates the parasympathetic nervous system.
TIPP: DBT’s Crisis Skill for Rapidly Lowering Emotional Intensity - Use controlled breathing to manage arousal during exposure
A brief, slow-breathing technique modulates arousal during difficult exposure moments.
Prolonged Exposure Therapy: Principles, Practices, and the Evidence - Work with the classical two-breath texture
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending - Prepare for tonglen with a brief equanimity grounding
Entering tonglen from a grounded, spacious state makes the practice sustainable rather than destabilising.
Tonglen: The Tibetan Practice of Taking and Sending
Related concerns
- Cft Compassionate Mind
Develop a vivid compassionate figure in imagination whose care you can access during distress.
Compassionate Imagery: The Compassionate Image and Safe Place
- Breathing In Own Suffering
Breathe in suffering (yours and others’); breathe out relief and well-being.
Tonglen: sending and taking
- Breathing In Suffering Meditation
Breathe in something hot, dark, and heavy; breathe out something cool, bright, and spacious.
Work with the classical two-breath texture
- Cft Compassion Building
Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT), developed by Paul Gilbert, targets shame and self-criticism by training a compassionate inner voice to replace the punitive self-critic. It draws on evolutionary psychology and affective neuroscience — specifically, the finding that different emotional systems (threat, drive, soothing) have distinct neurobiological profiles. A growing body of RCT evidence supports CFT for shame-based difficulties, self-criticism, and depression, though the evidence base is smaller than for CBT.
- Compassion Imagery Cft
Develop a vivid compassionate figure in imagination whose care you can access during distress.
- Directed Tonglen Practice
Tonglen ("taking and sending") is a Tibetan Buddhist compassion practice in which the practitioner breathes in suffering — their own or another’s — and breathes out relief, ease, and goodwill. It works by deliberately moving toward pain rather than away from it, which gradually reduces the fear of suffering and expands the capacity for compassion. Evidence is largely clinical and mechanistic; direct RCTs on tonglen specifically are sparse, though compassion training more broadly shows meaningful effects.
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