Coaching practices for Descriptive Commenting Children
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I praise my kid constantly
- I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong
- I tell my kid "good job" all day and it doesn’t seem to change anything
- My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are
- I praise my kid constantly
Practices that may help
- Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Encourage specific contributions and efforts
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen) - Help the child label the emotion with words
Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs) - Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
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Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
- Process Praise Parenting
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
- Specific Encouragement Parenting
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Behavioral Parent Training Praise
Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
- Character Recognition Parenting
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
- Contribution Praise Children
"You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
Encourage specific contributions and efforts
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