Coaching practices for Should I Use Pet Names When Talking About Private Body Parts with My Child

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  • My child can’t seem to name what they’re feeling
  • My child has these huge feelings with no words for them
  • I praise my kid constantly
  • My kid melts down and my instinct is to fix it or shut it down fast, and the tantrum just gets bigger
  • I only ever speak up to my kid when something’s wrong

Practices that may help

  1. Build mindsight by reflecting inner experience
    Describe your own inner experience in everyday conversation to build the child’s "mind-seeing" capacity.
    The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
  2. Help the child label the emotion with words
    Naming the feeling turns a body sensation into something the child can think about.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
  3. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
    Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  4. Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
    When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
    Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
  5. Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
    Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  6. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
    Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
  7. Talk with your child about their day and interests
    Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  8. Use descriptive praise instead of generic approval
    Tell the child exactly what they did right so they know what to repeat.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
    Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  10. Encourage specific contributions and efforts
    "You set the table without being asked — that helped the whole family" is more powerful than "Good job."
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)

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