Coaching practices for Game for Better Teen Sibling Relationship

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  • After a blow-up with my kid we both stay frozen and far apart, and I keep trying to talk it through, to get an apology, while the distance just drags on
  • Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
  • Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
  • My kid and I agree on a fix and it sounds great in the moment, but a few days later it’s fallen apart again
  • My kid is full of wild physical energy and I tend to shut down the wrestling and chasing because I’m afraid it’ll spin out of control

Practices that may help

  1. Use play to re-establish connection after conflict or separation
    Playful physical contact after a difficult moment re-welds the relationship faster than discussion.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  2. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
    Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  3. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
    Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  4. Evaluate solutions for durability: realistic, mutually satisfying, safe
    A collaborative solution that fails one of three tests — realistic, mutually satisfying, safe — will not hold.
    Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
  5. Engage in safe rough-and-tumble play
    Wrestling, chasing, and physical silliness build the regulation capacity that calm activities cannot.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  6. Sportscast what you see rather than directing
    Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  7. Use special time to fill the connection cup before problems escalate
    A proactive ten-minute connection recharge can prevent an afternoon of battles.
    Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
  8. Make bids for shared enjoyment, not just support
    Invite your partner to enjoy something together — playfulness and delight are also bids.
    Turning Toward: The Daily Practice That Builds Relationship Resilience
  9. Use family meetings to solve problems together
    When children help solve the problem, they own the solution — and solutions they own, they actually follow.
    Positive Discipline (Jane Nelsen)
  10. Use logical consequences that fit the behavior
    A consequence that is directly connected to the behavior teaches cause and effect instead of just imposing discomfort.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)

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