Grief and Loss Monk: 10 Evidence-Based Coaching Practices
Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Grief and Loss Monk, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.
Practices that may help
- Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Reframing loss as transformation
When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift - Integrating loss through the lens of anicca
When grieving a loss, ground the experience in the insight that what ended was always impermanent — and that grief itself is impermanent.
Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence - Holding joy and sadness simultaneously
When you notice a joyful experience that also carries loss, resist the urge to choose one emotion over the other.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Full presence with something passing
Deliberately be present for the last or near-last moment of something — a season, a stage, a relationship — without numbing.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Deliberately take time off from grief
Give yourself genuine permission to engage with ordinary life — this is restoration orientation, not avoidance.
The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical - Create a deliberate grief window
Schedule bounded time to grieve, protecting both the grief process and the rest of life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- Something I built my life around has ended
- Under the grief there’s this protest
- At my kid’s graduation, at a goodbye, I feel proud and gutted in the same breath and I don’t know what to do with both
- I keep my head down and stay busy so I never actually feel the loss, and now it ambushes me at random and won’t metabolize
Related concerns
- How Do Monks Deal With Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- Manage Grief And Loss Guided Meditation
Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
- Mindfulness Grief And Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- Accepting Loss Grief
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- Best Way To Deal With Grief And Loss
Know whether you tend toward more loss or more restoration orientation — and compensate accordingly.
Identify your natural grieving style and adjust for it
- Brad Yates Grief And Loss
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
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