Coaching practices for Building Trust Before Feedback

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• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• I only ever seem to show up to this person’s desk when I need something corrected, and I’m realizing I haven’t done a single thing purely for their benefit in months
• With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
• No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
• I dish out plenty of feedback but I’ve never once asked my team to tell me what I’m getting wrong, and I think that’s exactly why they don’t trust that honesty around here is safe

Practices that may help

1. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
2. Give something genuine before you ask for something hard
   The trust account needs deposits before you make a withdrawal — invest in the relationship before demanding performance.
   Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor
3. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
4. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
   Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
5. Ask for feedback before you give it
   Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
   Radical Candor, Made Practical
6. Ask what the person already knows before offering your assessment
   Ask the person to evaluate their own performance before giving yours.
   The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
7. Choose the right moment and setting for feedback
   Feedback lands in proportion to how safe and ready the receiver feels — timing and privacy matter.
   The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
8. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
9. Receive feedback with minimal defensiveness
   Treat feedback as data about others’ experience — not as a verdict on your character.
   The Johari Window
10. Invite a response after delivering SBI
    Close SBI by asking what the other person makes of it — not with a verdict.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical

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