Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with My Child's Anxiety
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- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- My child can tell me they’re upset but then has no idea what to actually do about it
- I keep asking the people around me "are you sure it’s fine?" over and over
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
Practices that may help
- Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Fade reassurance-seeking
Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Run toward the feeling
Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical - Allow the sensations without resisting
Let the physical feelings of anxiety be present instead of bracing against them.
The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical - Balanced, compassionate self-talk
Talk to yourself as you would to a friend — accurate and kind, not harsh or falsely cheery.
The Anxiety Toolkit, Made Practical - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
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