Coaching practices for How Do I Resolve a Child's Anxiety for War
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- Something scared my child
- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- My kid is sobbing about something that seems so small, and every instinct in me wants to explain why it’s not a big deal
- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
Practices that may help
- Name it to tame it: tell the story of the big feeling
Help the child narrate what happened and how it felt — storytelling is brain integration.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Productive Problem-Solving vs. Worry
Distinguish solvable worries — which need a plan — from hypothetical ones — which need acceptance or defusion.
Worry Time: Containing Anxiety With Scheduled Worry - Fade reassurance-seeking
Gradually reduce how often you seek reassurance from others that the feared thing won't happen.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical - Run toward the feeling
Actively invite more of the anxiety rather than waiting nervously for it to pass.
The DARE Response to Anxiety, Made Practical - Reframe from "preventing catastrophe" to "coping with discomfort"
Shift the goal of entering feared situations from preventing disaster to practicing tolerance.
Safety Behavior Fading, Made Practical
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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- Empathy De Escalation Children
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
- Helping A Child Deal With A Parent Who Lies
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
- When Collaborative Problem Solving Proactive Plan B
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
- When Emotion Coaching Empathic Listening Children
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Listen empathically and validate the feeling
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