Coaching practices for How Do I Deal with My Son's Depression
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- The storm has finally passed and my kid is calm again, and I keep wanting to either just move on or fix the situation for them
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
- I’ve gone quiet on everyone
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- Things that used to be nothing
Practices that may help
- Problem-solve together once the child is calm
After the emotional storm passes, invite the child to find a solution with you.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Schedule social contact as a priority activity
Treat social interaction as a prescribed activity, not as something to do when you feel ready.
Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Grade activity difficulty upward gradually
Start with the easiest feasible pleasant activity and increase demands only after success.
Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers) - Build a positive problem orientation
Treat problems as normal, solvable challenges rather than signs of personal failure.
Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
Related concerns
- Empathy De Escalation Children
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
- Responding To Child Upset
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
- When Collaborative Problem Solving Proactive Plan B
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
- Advise On 123 Magic For Hyper Or Anxious Kids
Each child needs their own set of tools matched to each zone.
Build each child’s personalized regulation toolbox
- How Do I Deal With My Childs Anxiety
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
- How Do We Stop Our Child Screeching
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
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