Coaching practices for How Do We Stop Our Child Screeching
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- When my kid is melting down I feel trapped between two bad options
- When my kid acts out I lose it
- I keep trying to reason with my kid right in the middle of the meltdown
- When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
- Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
Practices that may help
- Use empathy to de-escalate, not to capitulate
Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Refuse to energize negative behavior
Give consequences briefly and blandly — no energy, no lecture, no drama.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Give clear, calm, single instructions
One specific direction at a time, calmly stated once, is more effective than repeated commands.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders) - Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice - Listen empathically and validate the feeling
Reflect the emotion you see accurately before you do anything else.
Emotion Coaching (John Gottman) - Recognize when Plan A (unilateral imposition) makes things worse
Adult-imposed solutions can win the battle and lose the war — notice when enforcement is escalating rather than solving.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
Related concerns
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Solve the problem before the next explosion, when everyone is calm.
Hold Plan B conversations proactively, not reactively
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All feelings are acceptable; not all behaviors are — hold both at once.
Set limits on behavior while accepting the feeling
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Name the child’s emotional state without agreeing with every demand — empathy and limits can coexist.
- How To Deal With Tantrums In An 8 Year Old Child
The downstairs brain has to be acknowledged before the upstairs brain can hear anything.
Connect emotionally before you redirect or teach
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