Coaching practices for How to Deal with Emotions Book

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  • When a big feeling crashes over me it’s like I become it
  • A feeling slams into me and I have no idea where it came from or why it’s this big
  • When a wave of anger or panic hits, it feels like it’ll swallow me whole if I don’t do something right now
  • Whatever I’m feeling, I pile on top of it
  • I can stay calm reading about it, but the moment I’m actually in the situation all my good intentions vanish and I react

Practices that may help

  1. Mindfulness of the current emotion
    Observe the emotion as a wave passing through — without judging it, feeding it, or running from it.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  2. Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
    Naming and honestly expressing what you feel — rather than suppressing, masking, or performing emotions — is linked to lower physiological stress, better relationships, and more effective self-regulation. Decades of research on expressive writing and emotional disclosure support the general principle, though effects are modest and depend heavily on how disclosure is done.
  3. Understand the function of the emotion
    Every emotion evolved because it does something useful — learn what yours is trying to do.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  4. Riding the emotion wave with anicca awareness
    When a strong emotion hits, track it through its full arc — notice it peak and fall without fleeing or amplifying.
    Anicca: Working Practically with Impermanence
  5. N — Nurture with self-compassion
    Offer the part that is suffering what it most needs — care, acknowledgment, reassurance — as you would a dear friend.
    RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
  6. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical
  7. Check the facts and opposite action
    Test whether an emotion fits the facts; if it doesn’t, act opposite to its urge to change it.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) Skills, Made Practical
  8. Bring feelings into the conversation deliberately
    Name the emotions instead of leaking them — unspoken feelings don’t leave, they distort.
    Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
  9. O — Observe: Notice What Is Actually Happening
    After the stop, observe the situation, your emotions, and your urges — without judgment and without acting on them.
    The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
  10. Labeling emotions in children: the parenting application
    When a child is upset, name their emotion aloud and validate it before attempting to solve or redirect.
    Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice

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