Coaching practices for How to Encourage My 7 Year Old to Move on From Her Preschool Friend

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• My child reacts to everything on pure impulse and never seems to stop and think how the other kid feels, and I want to actually build that thinking-and-considering muscle during our good calm moments, not just keep firefighting once they’ve already lost it.
• I tell my kid "good job, you’re so smart" constantly, and now they freeze up at anything hard and keep looking to me to confirm they’re okay
• Every conversation with my kid about their behavior turns into me laying down the law and them digging in, and I want a way to actually talk it through together
• My little one gets so wound up or so shut down that talking goes nowhere
• My child has gotten so used to being "the difficult one" that they act like it’s just who they are

Practices that may help

1. Engage the upstairs brain through curiosity and play
   Ask questions that require the child to think, imagine, or consider another perspective.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
2. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
   Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
   Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
3. Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
   Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
   Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene)
4. Use physical movement to shift the nervous system state
   When the child is stuck in a heightened state, movement can shift the physiological baseline faster than words.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
5. Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
   Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
6. Allow natural consequences to do the teaching
   Step back and let the world respond — your child learns more from being cold than from being lectured about coats.
   Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
7. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
   Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
   The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)
8. Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
   Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
   The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson)
9. Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
   Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
   Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting)
10. Arrange the environment to support Green Zone states
    Predictable schedules, sensory comfort, and low transition stress make Green more accessible.
    Zones of Regulation (Leah Kuypers)

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