Coaching practices for How to Explain Trust to a Child

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• I won’t hand anyone real responsibility until they’ve completely proven themselves first
• Something’s damaged my trust in them but I can’t bring myself to just say so, so instead I quietly pull back, vent to other people, and let it fester
• I say "I’ll send that over" or "I’ll get to it" and then a bunch of those little things quietly slip my mind
• I catch myself falling back on "because I said so" because in the moment I’m too worn out to explain, and then my kid just tests the same rule again the next day like it never really meant anything to them.
• I keep everything at work behind a polished, guarded front

Practices that may help

1. Extend trust deliberately to invite it
   Trust others first, in bounded ways, before they have earned every dimension — it is how trust is built.
   The Trust Triangle
2. Have explicit trust conversations when trust is at stake
   Name the trust issue directly rather than managing it indirectly.
   The Trust Triangle
3. Build reliability through small, visible commitments
   Reliability is built not by big promises but by flawlessly keeping small, everyday ones.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
4. Explain the reason behind rules
   Children who understand why a rule exists are more likely to internalize it — and more likely to generalize it to new situations.
   Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
5. Lower your guard to raise the intimacy score
   Sharing something real about yourself makes others feel safer sharing something real with you.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
6. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
7. The Trust Equation, Made Practical
   The Trust Equation (Maister, Green, and Galford) holds that trustworthiness = (credibility + reliability + intimacy) ÷ self-orientation. The model is a practitioner framework rather than a rigorously tested theory, but it usefully names the levers — especially self-orientation, which is the single biggest trust-killer most leaders overlook.
8. Be transparent about your competence limits
   Name what you can do, what you can’t, and what you’ll need to learn — before you are found out.
   The Trust Triangle
9. Talk with your child about their day and interests
   Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
   Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
10. Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
    Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
    The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser)

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